The fair value of every conscious being is the same and is called dignity.
Each choice of a life partner is made based on specific criteria. If our most important criterion for choice is dignity, then the choice of a life partner can only be made once in a lifetime. What would be the point of exchanging the same value for the same value, the dignity of one conscious being for the dignity of another conscious being? Therefore, if you want to be fair, you cannot choose another partner for your next life partnership.
Choosing another life partner for our next life partnership would mean being guided by criteria other than the dignity of a conscious being, such as appearance, behaviour, age or social status.
Selection criteria other than the dignity of a conscious being relate solely to objects, so choosing each subsequent life partner based on them would mean treating the conscious being in an objectified, unequal and unjust manner.
Certain activities are not performed with the participation of all beings. There is only a small group of conscious beings with whom we can confide, with whom we can have sex or raise children. This results from the need to ensure the safety of our body and psyche.
Choosing one life partner or none is a recognition of the equal value and therefore dignity of every conscious being.
It is an announcement to all those with whom we cannot do intimate things, that, taking into account their dignity, we choose only one life partner for intimate activities or none. Choosing only two or three partners for shared intimate activities would be unfair because it would ignore the others. Also those who in the future, thanks to working on themselves, would develop attractive character or appearance traits for us.
Choosing all people for our life partnership would be fair in terms of dignity but unrealistic. Choosing one life partner of the same sex would be unfair because our relationship would not represent all the genders present in society. This one and only life partner of yours is a representative of the entire community of conscious beings of their gender. You represent the opposite gender. A man represents all men and a woman represents all women. Together you represent the entire community of conscious beings.
However, gender must be identified at the cellular level. Scientifically verifiable by independent third parties. A man produces sperm and a woman produces eggs. A man has X and Y chromosomes and a woman has X and X in each somatic cell.
Simply identifying oneself as a woman or a man based on feeling or desire is not sufficient to label someone as such. Feelings cannot serve as a definition when there are genetic traits that are more stable and verifiable.
Feelings cannot be verified by an independent third party and therefore cannot be scientifically proven. There is no certainty that a person who identifies as a man today will consider themselves a woman tomorrow. It would also be unclear whether they are being honest about their emotions-based identity. Furthermore, a genetic man cannot truly know what it is like to be a woman if he has never been one. He has never even had a menstrual period.
There are also people who claim to involuntarily identify as animals, even though they have never genetically been one. However, a separate term has been coined for this phenomenon—modern therianthropy. A similar approach could be considered for genders.
Various shades of feelings and people in this regard can, for the sake of order, be identified by other terms.
Concepts such as gender, man, woman, male, and female have already been previously defined and are based on the most reliable genome-inferred cellular traits.
By living alone or remaining in a life partnership with only one partner of the opposite sex, we ensure that our priority in treating every conscious being is their dignity.
We can potentially do non-intimate acts to anyone, but then they become secondary, giving way to dignity. If an act is intimate to my life partner, then it automatically becomes intimate to me as well.
For example, in a situation where a woman has voluntarily chosen a young man as her life partner, for whom holding another person’s hand is intimate, she should respect that and not hold hands with another man. At least until her partner changes his mind and declares that, after all, with anyone who asks and is not hostile, one can hold hands. Therefore, it is no longer an intimate act for him to walk hand in hand with anyone reasonably friendly.
Would it be fair for a woman living alone to kiss her friends on the lips? Yes, provided that the following conditions are met.
The kissing will not pose any health or safety risk to anyone. She will kiss on the lips any friendly person who requests it. For example, a person with a disability, an elderly person, an overweight person, or someone without teeth. The reason for kissing will not be material but will stem from respecting the dignity of all conscious beings. Otherwise, kissing only a select few friends or clients on the lips would be unfair to others and objectifying. If this woman or man is unable to meet the above conditions, it means that kissing on the lips should be treated as an intimate act reserved solely for their one life partner. How can it be that one partner represents everyone? Our partner, in a way, represents every other person over the years.
Therefore, first and foremost, we can and should satisfy our partner loyally. We can then offer assistance to others. For this reason, we should not feel guilty for not kissing our mum, dad or friend goodnight, as we do so for our partner, who represents everyone.
Our partner represents young, attractive and healthy people when our relationship is young. Our partner represents old, boring, sick and disabled people when our relationship is long-term. Our partner represents all our friends and sometimes our enemies and traitors or people who are absent in the event of our separation. As can be seen, not only for epidemiological and health reasons, life partners should not be changed.
If we change our partner to another „model”, then we reject all boring or disabled people and their dignity. We start treating people like objects that we replace when a crisis comes. We get rid of burden and responsibility.
The text is authored by Arkadiusz Milewski. All rights reserved. The excerpt comes from the author’s work, personal notes, and reflections. It was first published on 15 April 2026 at www.wandamilewska.pl.
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